Not everyone likes your Prosperity..

#Not everyone loves the way you do things and succeed#.

In fact, some people may feel more envious each time you scoop an award. This has happened before. They may feel you didn’t deserve the trophy! This is practical.

When you are a strong personality, a few people may celebrate your charisma. Majority may want to oppose it, and some may even spend sleepless nights trying to water it down.

Your achievements usually remind them of their weaknesses. In other words, your strength is a reminder of their weaknesses. When you appear on stage to present a concept paper, a song, or to make your speech, they feel inferior. They dig in your presentation for mistakes to bring you down to their level. That’s the only’best’ thing they can do.

When people fight you, or hate you for no clear reason, it may mean the following;

  • That you are superior, and so you make them look inferior.
  • Your personality is great and so they need to oppose it in order for them to make it. They have no other way of competing with you.
  • Your intelligence is far greater than theirs and so they are not of your class. You belong to a higher class than them.
  • They are not and may not suit on your ‘true friends’ list.
  • Not everyone is pleased with what you do in life. Your success is their source of strife.

Not everyone celebrates when you win. Not all people around you who jump up when you succeed feel good. Don’t be surprised.

When you are a great personality, the kind of opposition that you receive every time is intense than an ordinary personality.

The difficulties that you face are usually very great. But then afterwards, the glory will match the greater difficulties. In other words, the greater the difficulty, the greater the glory. So, stay positive always no matter what.

Always feel proud when you find yourself opposed, especially when you know that you are doing the right thing. Don’t shed tears. Instead, take advantage and affirm your faith. People fear to approach somebody who has a firm stand. They fear somebody who likes speaking the truth.

When you celebrate your success, do it like you will never celebrate again. It’s your time and turn. What do you want to spare?

But remember, not everyone likes your Prosperity.

Chinua…..

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Battles are Fought, Not Thought.

#Battle#strategy#winning.

It’s very unwise to imagine that you can win a battle by sitting back and not taking any action. A good soldier rises to go and fight. Please mark that.

You fight. You put on your armour and face the opponent. This is not and is never an imaginary affair. 

But before that, you need to train first. You may only do little in the battle field if you trained insufficiently or didn’t train at all. The enemy may sound stronger for you because of such reasons. Remember the following:

  • You may have all the weapons, all the armies but may end up being defeated. Why? Because you may be having a poor strategy, or no skill because of poor or no training. Everything being available doesn’t guarantee success. The enemy may still overtake you.
  • Every battle requires resilience. Fight up to the end. Resolve to fight until you die. Either you win or die. Two things only. Nothing in between.
  • Battles are not fought by cowards. When you run away, the enemy gets a chance to shoot your bare back. You may have a breast plate in place, and a shield but your back may not be equally protected. So you endanger your back when you run away. Face the enemy.

Battles come in different forms in our lives. Diseases, alcoholism, marital problems, poverty, court cases are just some of them. Remember also that battles may be psychological, for example a mind set that one will never make it in life however much they try.

When you are faced with a battle, remember that your faith is being tested. To grow stronger, you need to be exposed to a test or an examination. As you pass one test, you face another one….and eventually you graduate.

A winner is never characterized by how many battles they fought but how they kept on rising, a battle after another.

The best way to wage war against the enemy is to plan and attack using tact and never to retreat even if the enemy looks fierce or stronger than you.

When you know you are a coward, you may decide to shout and threaten the enemy…in your cowardice state. The enemy may interpret the shout as a danger that wants to send them to the grave. When you know that you don’t have courage, just pretend that you have it. 

It’s very wrong to think that battles are won overnight. It’s never an easy ride. Always prepare adequately. 

That’s the truth. Thank you.

Chinua……

Why mistakes are important…

It’s not a mistake when one does a mistake. Somebody is never defined as a failure when found in a mistake. A learner doesn’t become a failure because of making a mistake.

It’s not a mistake when you take a wrong direction. It’s a mistake when you take the same wrong direction you took before. In other words, twice a mistake in the same manner, then know you are a failure.

In my career life, as a Lecturer, a Motivator and a Coach, I have failed at times to catch up with my schedule, simply because of a few mistakes. When that happens, I simply sit down and draw a lesson out of it, then plan a new lesson again. I use the mistake…the occurrence as a ladder to climb up and reach my goal. I make sure that the mistake I did is turned into a positive affair that brings me fruits from my success garden. I use the mistake to cultivate, asses and evaluate myself. My mistakes are my mirror, my checklist, my scoresheet, my drawing board, my reflection, my mock test, my preliminary match, my test effort……my……

Mistakes are important dear ladies and gentlemen. They show us, and even remind us that we are human. Mistakes make us appreciate nature and make us realize that God designed failure and success. The reason why mistakes are considered to be part of our lives is that they teach us lessons while on the journey to our destination and if we don’t embrace them, we lose the history of the journey altogether. Mistakes are a proof that we are attempting to do something, that we are not sitting back all along.

The only critical mind I would like to pen down here is that a first mistake serves well with a human being. But a repeat of the same mistake calls for a different treatment. A failure would repeat the same mistake he/she did yesterday. A failure is someone who can’t learn. A failure and a fool parallel each other. Fools don’t learn either. 

Mistakes are important because they help us to see. When we go wrong, we correct the situation and we are therefore able to see both sides of the situation (good and bad) better. In this case, we can do a better judgement afterwards.

It’s a mistake to ignore a mistake. It’s a mistake to think that making a mistake for the first time means failure. It’s a mistake not to correct a situation after you have done a mistake. It’s a mistake to think that mistakes are not important and should not be considered as part of the whole process. It’s a mistake to think that we were born perfect…and that we can do everything precisely from the word go. When you make a mistake, don’t stay there crying and showing resentment. Stand up, dust yourself off and move on. Life has to go on.

It’s a mistake to repeat the same mistake. It’s a mistake to continuously make mistakes without considering correction. It’s a mistake to think that you can’t make it in life. 
Mistakes are important. If you think they are not, fine. But before you became who you are, I am sure you passed through the ‘mistake’ shadow. You may have learnt from those mistakes and shaped yourself better. I am certain about that.
Chinua……